Friday, August 13, 2010


Nothing special about my work day this morning…No funny feelings like I am sometimes known to get if something is going to happen. Just a normal day, as I headed toward the table in the corner with pen and pad in hand. It was after I had gotten their order that the lady informed me that a friend’s husband had suffered a brain aneurysm this morning. I was so shocked that my breath literally caught in my throat and it was all I could do to keep from crying.

This friend had lost her daddy a little over 6 weeks ago and had just underwent some painful oral surgery the day before. She had been through quite a rough time and had shown me just how strong she truly is.

And now this.

I am sure when she went to bed last night that she had no idea…no inkling… that her world was about to be turned upside down.

Just like that night over four years ago…when I didn’t know that my world, as I knew it, was about to end .

Sometimes I have wondered if I would have done anything or said anything different that Saturday night had I known. Oh, I am sure there would have been some things done differently on both our parts, but we pretty much had already ‘gotten ourselves in gear’ so to speak, because God had already given me and Danny the warnings. You see, there were several smaller heart attacks before the massive heart attack that finally took his life.

The weeks we spent together at Emory during his open heart surgery to replace his aortic valve was time that we spent talking about all our years together and also about what time that we hoped we had left. The night before his surgery, we stayed up all night because Danny wanted to make sure that I knew all his wishes, just in case. My heart breaking, I didn’t want to listen…but he was determined…and he was so happy when he awoke to find that he had made it through the surgery.

That was in August of 2005.

We didn’t know it then, but we only had five more months together on this earth. That Sunday morning on Jan 29, 2006 was like any other Sunday morning at our house…Matter of fact, Danny told me he felt better than he had in years.

Within two hours, he would be gone


Today, while working at the Bar-B-Que I was reminded once again how fragile life is.

How the totally unexpected can come flying from out of nowhere to smack you right in the face, when you least expect it.

So, before you go to bed tonight, if you are lucky enough to still have that special someone there with you…

Give them a great big hug and make sure that they know how much you love them…

Because you never know.



Paula said...

Amen Carlene and God bless you. Prayers for your friend and her husband.

Cin said...

powerful message...thx for the reminder!

Ally Lifewithally said...

Carlene how sad ~ my thoughts and prayers are with your friend ~ and her Husband ~ Ally x

I'm mostly known as 'MA' said...

Truer words were never spoken. Our lives are so fragile yet so often taken for granted. There is never a day goes by but that i tell those I love just how special they are to me. Thank you for the reminder.

madcobug said...

Sending up prayers for them both Carlene. I know they both need them badly. Keep us updated as to how things are going.
Lovya, Helen

Lisa said...

i got a huge taste of how you feel this month when my husband was admitted to the heart cath lab....and the cardiologists came and discussed "options" if the end result was not what positive....and i got a taste of it when he was taken by squad 2 months ago. For two people who work FT and are seemingly "never sick", this year has been a scary one and eye opening one.
Just this week 3 coworkers lost their 1) 5 month old grand daughter who was murdered, 2) son in law in his 30's and 3) father. None of these people had ANY warning. THAT has to be the worst way to lose someone you warning, just gone. Words escape me....but my heart breaks for them all. Sorry to hear of your friends loss....why on earth do these things happen when a person already has so much going on?

Gerry said...

No, you never know, and so there is only that time to love everyone as much as you can, which I am sure that you did, just as you are loving your little grandsons now with all your heart, plus the rest of your family members and friends as well. But it never hurts to remind people that we never know how long we will have with that certain someone or with our kids, or friends, or just about anyone we might cherish for one reason or another.

ADB said...

Well written, Carlene, a timely reminder. Hope your friend recovers. Keep us posted.

Adirondackcountrygal said...

Carlene, I remember that day when your Danny went to heaven. I thank you for your reminder to remember to feel blessed for what we have.

Myra said...

I believe there isn't anything you could have done differently on that day...when it is our turn, it is time to go. My sister just lost her significant other to pancreatic cancer 2 weeks ago. Three months and he was gone. You and Danny said what needed to be said. Take comfort in that knowledge!