Saturday, November 8, 2008

A “REAL” JOB

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I have not had an easy day. For some reason my arm and the place on my lower spine (where I fell ) have been unusually painful today…. And I am sooooo worried about the fact that I have no paycheck coming in while I am not working….Okay, I will go ahead and admit it….  I have  been having a hell of a pity party… since about 2:00 am this morning when the pain in my arm woke me up.

My mind tells me to shut up the whining…it tells me that I am lucky to be livinglucky that it is only my arm, head and spine that hurts….that I could be brain injured and comatose right now or dead….My mind tells me that there are others in this world that are far worse off than I….

And my mind is right….I know it is……

Thinking I would cheer myself up…I read a story just now on AOL about a waitress getting a $10,000.00 tip! Now don’t you think that has to be the happiest story? And it was….until I went and read one of the comments that followed. Now 99% of the comments were positive, but there was this one person…(I will call her “F” ) who said that when she dined out that she left a 10% tip; unless the service was not what she expected…then she would leave a quarter and a note explaining why.

Well that sort of got under my skin, but then another person…( let’s call her  “C” ) came back saying that she was a waitress, had been for years  and sometimes it’s not the waitress/waiter's fault…It could be the cooking…over crowded conditions, any numerous things which can affect your service … which is true.

You know what really really ticked me off??? It  was when ’F ‘ came back and said….“well don’t blame the customers because you didn’t further your education and better yourself maybe you should get a real job and leave the waitressing to the teenagers. 

Now anybody that knows me, knows that I have been a waitress nearly all my life…starting out when I was around 14…. working 7 days a week, 12 hours a day…giving my check to my daddy to help him and mama… and only keeping my tips for myself. Sunday before last, before I crippled myself… I was still waitressing…working 11 hour days, three days a week.

Up until I read ‘F’ s comment, I thought I had a real job….It certainly felt like it when my feet would be too swollen to wear my shoes once I took them off at home…. It also felt like it when I have gotten burned too many times to count…To me; waitressing has got to be one of the hardest jobs there is and the least respected.

This has got me wondering…….Do most people think like ‘F’ ??? I mean yeah, I had dreams…I wanted to be a teacher, or a nurse….but sometimes things happen to get in the way of dreams 

Please answer me this…. Because I make my living by waitressing, does that make me less of a real person? I may not have furthered my education and bettered myself….but I was always taught that no matter what job you hold… to do it to the best of your abilityand to treat others with the respect and courtesy that you want to be treated.

And I have always tried real hard to do what I was taught.

You know…

Come to think of it….

I think I did  further my education…and better myself….

At least better than ‘F’ and those like her.

GOD BLESS YOU ALL.

26 comments:

Rose said...

Oh my dear you know in your heart that F is a moron and should get off her high horse and realize that no matter how bad things get people still love to eat out and most find great comfort in dining at their favorite place being served by their favorite waitress!! To me, working people are educated by the school of the REAL WORLD! Sweetie, I have been having a fear, worry fest myself...let's agree to give it all to our father in Heaven! He will give us the biggest tip ever! His love for us, and his grace to bless us even when we are hurting and afraid! Sending love to you my friend, and I am a former waitress myself, supported my three kids with that and cleaning houses!!! And darn proud of it!!

Donna said...

Hmmm, I think you have inspired a blog entry. Stay tuned.

Barbara said...

I think you are right Carlene! You do have a REAL job, it's just F ain't much of a REAL person.

Paula said...

I would love to win the lottery and just give large tips to people who work so hard to please people and do a good job.

Missie said...

Apparently "F" is not very educated themselves to say such a thing!

Hope your arm starts to feel better.

Astaryth said...

Hmmm... I think F needs a kick in the butt!! I've done a lot of jobs in my life, and I always tried to do my best. Sure, I would have liked to gone to college and 'bettered' myself... but sometimes life (and the need to eat and put a roof over you and your family's head) gets in the way of stuff like that.

barb said...

you sure do have a real job and a hard one at that. f must be nuts and stupid too to even think such a thing, let alone say it. hope you are better soon. barb

kelly said...

Pay no attention to lady "F" it obvious she has no class... if she isn't happy with the service tell her to keep her butt home and serve herself... I have seen many of waitress's work their butts off and get no tip.. I know you all don't make that much in wages.. so it's your tips you rely on... no, it doesn't take an education to wait tables... but it does take skill, patience and common sense and it looks like in lady "f's" case she has none... I so appreciate all the hard work of all waiters and waitress's... it is a real job...

ADB said...

Carlene,
There is nothing dishonourable or disrespectful about being a waitress. Nobody could go eating out without waiters and waitresses about, and a having had an advanced education doesn't necessarily make you a better person.

Guido

Kathy said...

Carlene, the real people of the world are the folks just like you ... who work hard at whatever they do and do it with a smile on their face in spite of aches, pains and bad days.

I waitressed years ago ... there was nothing worse than a bad kitchen day to turn customers against you and let's face it, everyone has a bad day now and again.

My husband and I routinely tip 20%. Not because we are better off than others, but because we know that some waitresses make less an hour because of their tips. And because we appreciate the service!!

Carlene, don't let 'F' get to you. 'F' is just a s**t stirrer. There are lots of them here on the internet.

Be well. Feel better. God Bless you too. ;)

Chris/cacklinrosie101 said...

Oh goodeness, Carlene, pardon my French but what an AH "F" is. Of course, waitressing is a real job, and you are one of the most real people I know. My Megan will have her college education in December but no job prospects so she is still waitressing and actually making some darned good money doing it and works darned hard for those tips. It's just a local family style restaurant here in Pittsburgh.

All the education in the world does not define the person underneath it all. Obviously, "F" needs a good lesson in life. With that personality, she would be one poverty stricken waitress because she couldn't buy herself a tip.

You take care of yourself. I've been keeping you in my prayers. Love ya!

Stuart said...

A job is irrelevant. It is who the person is that makes it all relevant. In my life I worked with people who needed me made no difference to me if one was the former Ambassador to Russia and the next the local road sweeper. Nor may I say did it make any difference to the two men who were both in my congregation and lived 20 feet from one another.

lisa jo said...

hell, i am 40 and make subs and i sure did not think that i would do that with my life when i wanted to do so much more BUT you know what? I am not embarressed or ashamed because LIKE YOU i work for everything i have and even if that is not much it is more than that AH moron, F. People like her probably have little to show for WHO they are and have things handed to them. I think being a waitress is very honorable and tell Rick all the time that it would be hard to be one because i can not stand demanding people. I love you.

madcobug said...

Carlene you are right. Being a waitress is a real job. A hard one at that. Pay no attention to negative comments made by people who have probably never even tried to be a waitress. It takes skills, patience and brains to be a good waitress. Lovya, Helen

Anonymous said...

There are people who think if you aren't college educated you don't have a "real job". As in, all blue collar workers don't have a real job, either. Don't let their elitist mentality get you down.

Myra said...

YOU are right Carlene...and F is ignorant! She truly doesn't understand that it takes ALL kinds of people in every industry imaginable to make the world go round. If there weren't any waitresses, who would "wait" on F???? I hope you feel better soon!

lisita15 said...

First off, don't let that ignorant and stupid person get you upset. I think that being a waitress is one of the hardest jobs!! I know that I couldn't do it!!! I have NEVER been in any kind of retail type of job, just because I know I couldn't do it! I think that working in public has got to be one of the most demanding jobs ever. I always leave a 17% tip.. no matter what. if I feel that the service was wonderful, then I leave more. Everyone is trying to make a living and they deserve the minimum. Lisa

Terri said...

Amen Carlene!!!

It is a REAL job...you work very hard and people like F need to learn to respect others...no matter what their occupation... I have a feeling others feel that way about my position as a laundry aide for a hospital...we're not doctors or nurses so some think we are beneath them...

We must hold our heads high...and ignore ignorance Carlene...we know we work hard for our money at our REAL jobs!

Hope you feel much better soon!

Hugs
Terri

Ora said...

Hey Carlene...hubby and I love to eat out...we do it many times during the week...mostly on week ends we just pick and serve ourselves LOL..and as for waitressing...it is a job...and a darn good one...look at the places that would be out of business if not for the "waitress and waiter" on the job...I could never be a waitress..I am not coordinated enough...most folks would have food all over them...or in their laps...and the beverages...who know where they would be LOLOL...we have many waitress and waiters who are "friends"...not knock about friends...just folks we have come to enjoy...and I have known many a person who has put themselves thru college and seminary waiting on other folks...even a few "bartenders"...I don't knock them...I worked elsewhere...a job!!!! you betcha it is a job...just like any other job...ditch digging...garbage folks...teachers...we are all in it for the same thing...survival...to make a living...such as it is...now you have a happy day in the Lord...don't let things that other folks say as they are so petty...if known,,,they prolly take all the condiments on the table when they leave...sheesh!!!! I know you are hurting now...and that is the healing taking place...prayers for you each day...love and hugs too...God Bless...Ora PS..folks like "F" don't even deserve a thought!!!!

Jeanne said...

NOT A REAL JOB? Can I just say that I think that people in YOUR job work HARDER than alot of people with that college education! I don't have one either dear....I went to a 1 year secretarial school. I have to work my butt off even HARDER than those who HAVE that education just to make close to the same money that they make.

F is just an idiot who is full of herself and has no respect for hardworking people. 10% tip? I always leave 20% unless the service is poor because I have a great appreciation for the hard work waitresses do.

Maybe F should be FORCED to waitress for a week and see what it's like? I bet that would change her tune and FAST!!

((hugs))
Jeanne

Kath said...

Of course you work hard Carlene It's a flipping hard job is waitressing.Is this person right in the head! who said this ? I don't think so LOL!!I hope you get better quickly Carlene in my thoughts always.You cast this all aside and think of yourself and get better soon.Take Care God Bless Kath xx
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Sherrylinn said...

I just found your blog "by chance". I say that with a smirk you cannot see. I don't believe in chance. The Lord brought me here for this post.

What you do is very hard, unrewarding (sometimes) work. "F" is a moron, and probably doesn't have the brains, much less the personality, to do what you do.

My aunt, whom I lost eight years ago next month, was also a waitress all her life, until cancer got her so hard she couldn't even stand up. (She literally worked until she could not stand up). She, like yourself (I'm sure), loved her work and loved people. She wouldn't have done anythings else. I, personally, don't have the personality for it, sad to say.

I haven't read any of the other comments, but I'm sure we are all in agreement. You are a strong, wonderful woman, and" "F" doesn't have the brains God gave a goose!

I will be praying that you feel better. I understand the pain (herniated discs in my neck and back), and am also between jobs. It is hard to remember we are the only ones hurting, but God is there, and I will cling to Him.

dragondrops said...

the thing is with these people, they have no idea what the real world is like, they dont understand that it takes all sorts, even the low life ungrateful so n so's - i'm sorry for your plight carlene, you have my very best wishes, and I think waitresses are great, all of us moms have been a waitress at some time or another, and all of us wives too, in fact anyone who has fetched anyone else a cup of coffee... thats waiting on someone.... I think you are great... you go girl !!!

gerry-daughters-of-the-shadow-men said...

I was a watiress for 10 years altogether. But I was thankful I could work at that job, because when I got too worn out with my chronic fatigue condition, I could stop for a while and could always get another job easy. I could not do any work that wss mentally stressful at all and sometimes had to quit a waitress job if the boss yelled at us. Which is why I relate to you because I know how hard you work, how your feet have got to hurt by the end of the day, especially if you work 11 hours. That is too much because the job can be so demanding in physical energy. I have known waitresses who wore those meters and walked as high as 10 miles a day or should I say trotted. I also had some nasty remarks on occasion that hurt. And I know that it is possible you fell because you were just plain wore out. I lost the best waitress job I had ever had by collapsing on the job and had to be helped to my car. No, Carlene, you are absolutely right, nobody deserves to be looked down on for an honest days work. I came from farm people and they were respected for their work ethics. My dad was a very smart guy but I respected him the most for working just as hard as his hired men or his kids because everything had to be done right. Gerry

Heather said...

That comment would have upset me too. I ALWAYS tip very well when we go out to eat. Waitressing looks like a VERY hard job. I've never waitressed, but I do see the way they work their butts off running back and forth to wait on people. You do have a REAL job and don't let anybody tell you or make you think any different.

Luv~Heather

Jen said...

It's MORE than a real job - you have to deal with people who are hungry! Don't let F's comments bring you down - she sounds like she couldn't survive one day being a waitress with that personality.